Reported by Abu Hurairah (RA): The Prophet (peace be upon him) said, "The upper hand is better than the lower one
(i.e., the spending hand is better than the receiving hand); and begin (charity) with those who are under your care;
and the best charity is that which given out of surplus; and he who asks (Allah) to help him abstain from the unlawful and the forbidden,
Allah will fulfill his wish; and he who seeks self-sufficiency will be made self-sufficient by Allah". [Bukhari].